Speaking your language (and a ? on behalf of the local singles)
Last night was amazing. When I go many, many days in a row with things to do (even fun things - which they usually are), I start to long for a recliner, a tv, and a long stretch of evening with nowhere to be.
But as great as last night was with it's recliner, and it's TiVo'd Bachelor, and it's Bible Study catch-up....the days leading up were treasured as well.
Monday night after work, I went out to eat with a sweet friend. This particular friend and I are starting to get a reputation around town for being "those girls."
And by that I mean the ones that go to a restaurant at around 6pm and sit at their table until the place closes. The kind that tie up one table for 4 hours, the ones whose families start calling to make sure they are still alive out there somewhere, and the ones that waiters love to hate. We feel bad about taking up the table, but we also feel talky.
Tuesday night I reprised my role as assistant to Marsha, aka Love Language Extraordinaire. For many years Marsha has been teaching a love language class through the church. This year she is doing it in a town nearby and having the group meet at a local restaurant.
I have helped Moesha for several years, with my main job being.....DVD Coordinator.
Or as I liked to call it back in college (when I ran the slide show with the song words during worship)....the Spiritual Technician.
Sadly, the Spiritual Technician isn't what she used to be.
I couldn't get it the dang thing to work.
Put the DVD in. Hit play. Blue screen. Hit play harder. Blue screen. WHY ISN'T IT WORKING!?!?!!?
Turns out it was switched to "VCR mode", as one of the men taking the class pointed out with one click of the button.
Oh.
I see. I didn't realize we were working with one of those prehistoric "VCR devices" my grandfather used to tell me stories about.
Marsha hosted about 7 husband and wife couples for the study. They were so funny! I think they will definitely benefit from Marsha's great teaching, and even though I'm not married, after sitting through her class for several years - I am schooled in the LL's. It really is revolutionary for marriages and all relationships in general!
One thing she uses in the study are some excerpts from Mark Gungor's "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage." (Hence the need for the DVD coordination).
These videos are hilarious! HILARIOUS. Look up his "tale of two brains" on youtube, watch with your husband, and prepare to be amused.
Marsha's repertoire of Gary Chapman literature.
I usually re-take the love language test every couple of years to see if I am still the same, which I was this time around. 10 - quality time, 8 - physical touch, and 6 - words of affirmation.
It was a fun night!
And on a totally different note, I have a question for all you singles (or used-to-be-singles) out there. (Wait, that's everyone).
Dear Everyone, I have a question.
There is a lady at our church (who is married but has a heart for singles) and is wanting to get a Singles Ministry going. She asked what I thought about it and I said, "More power to ya, sister."
I told Phoebe about it.
I could tell she had some concerns.
And we do too.....I've never been involved with such and have heard that those kind of situations are a breeding ground for awkwardness. And after some horror stories I've heard from others - I'd have to agree. It seems like a tricky business to me.
SO....anyone have any words of wisdom for me to tell this kind woman trying to get this thing going? Any do's or don'ts?
She wasn't sure what direction to go with it...Have married couples speak? Make it more like a place to "meet people" (alert alert awkward alert) or have someone teach a Bible study?
All suggestions and/or horror stories welcomed!






